Why do we suffer from "tunnel-vision" - how do we knock the tunnel down?

so many people post on here about a certain girl/boy as if there the only one in the world....and so many respond "there are plenty more fish in the sea"

why do people suffer such tunnel vision - and focus on one person soo much? How can you get out of this trap?






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Sometimes its just that the person has had a great impact on your life and you just cant let go. Other times they are just stupid and needy and it happens with ever girl or guy they meet and make it seem like they're the one. But i know if my husband and I eneded our relationship I would be #1 in tunnel vision. Depends on the person and circumstances.






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Because they are desperate and are dependent on someone to fulfill whatever they are lacking in themselves -- being "codependent" on someone to make them happy. They are disfunctional when it comes to relationships.






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I don't necessarily see this as a trap.

I mean, people are still trying to get to know themselves, seeing what they truely want and don't want. That would be hard to do if we didn't focus on one person at a time.

Just like with our senses...how would we learn, be able to understand, or take in what's around us if our ears didn't focus on certain sounds or eyes didn't focus on what we were concentrating on. It'd be too much input, things wouldn't make sense. In this way, we are prone to focus on what we have, or hurt from focusing on what we just recently lost.






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obviously you have never seen anyone who you love or really fancy yet

you dont need an answer for your so called tunnel vision as far as im concerend you have 'tunnel vision ' on the world around you if you think this is a bad thing






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Most people that have that "Tunnel Vision" are with their first love.. and they want to make it work and want to be in that relationship with them for the rest of their lives because they like to think that they are the lucky one that found the right person the first time around.

The only way to get out of that trap is to either overcome your feeling and just know that there is more than just this...

The only other way out is to experience it first hand like so many of us do.